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About me

As a therapist I consider your growth my highest priority. My passion for helping others is birthed from my own personal transformation and healing. I have made a commitment to actively engage in my own growth so I may continue to thrive as a healthy person building a healthy practice. I am fortunate to have people entrust me with the most vulnerable details of their lives and help them heal and create the relationships they desire to have with themselves and others.
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I can help you…

  • Gain the ability to create and maintain longstanding loving relationships
  • Stop self destructive patterns of behavior
  • Get relief from painful emotional experiences
  • Feel deeply understood
  • Identify and access your talents and strengths
  • Develop intimacy and trust in your relationship
  • Improve your communications skills
  • Learn how to be a better parent
  • Become more productive at work
  • Get more satisfaction from life
  • Understand your feelings and behaviors that don’t make sense
  • Prevent the past from interfering with the present
  • Talk things over in a confidential setting

Articles by Crystal

Author:
• Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

Many of the people who come to see me have difficulty with the notion of caring for themselves. Often times they tell me that they either don’t know where to begin or what this even means and or they tell me they feel guilty or selfish at the thought of considering themselves. In actuality in order to sustain a relatively healthy and balanced life taking care of yourself is necessary. In order to help you create and sustain this kind of life I have composed a list of ways you may care for yourself. Some of these items are about taking care of your emotional and psychological life and some are about taking care of your body or your spiritual self. Although all parts of you are impacted in a positive way when you care for yourself you may find that some of the items on this list feel more appealing or are more likely things you will actually do. Building a life-giving relationship with yourself is so meaningful and rewarding. All my best to you as you venture toward healing and wholeness.

Going for a walk, run, bike ride

Calling a friend to connect

Taking a bath

Listening to music that inspires you or soothes you

Playing with children or animal

Dancing

Yoga

Photography

Watching a comedian and laughing

Meditating/praying

Writing in a journal or creative writing (see my article Writing from Within)

Watching a movie that inspires you

Painting or drawing

Getting a massage

Plan/take a vacation

Take vitamins

Get on a sleep routine

Playing with or without children

Create positive affirmations or mantras you repeat to yourself

There are so many other countless ways you can nurture yourself. The main idea is that you feel a sense of grounding, peace, connection and or vitality from the activity you are doing. When we build a kind and nurturing relationship with ourselves we actively participate in healing and helping ourselves. When are able to and choose to do this, it builds confidence because we have decided to treat ourselves in a way that demonstrates the love and respect we have for ourselves. I warmly invite you to do something life giving for yourself today and to allow yourself to believe that you deserve it.

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Author:
• Tuesday, February 21st, 2012

Frequently Asked Questions

“Is it normal for me to not have words to describe what I experience?”
You are in a process of self-understanding throughout your life. The more connections you make and articulate, the more you grow. There is a level of being able to describe your experience that helps you be understood and connect to others. The less you know about yourself the less connected you feel.

“Do you diagnose?”
Often in our culture people can feel shamed or limited due to being diagnosed. In an effort to protect you from these feelings I diagnose only when necessary. I do find benefit in the positive aspects of diagnosing and yet my role is to interact with you as a whole person within the world of your relationships and personal meanings. We will find the balance between these two worlds together.

“Do you prescribe medication?”
Since Marriage & Family Therapists do not prescribe medication I will refer you out to a Mental Health Nurse Practitioner. To reduce confusion I will speak to them and express what I have learned about you and leave the medication portion to him or her. I have worked closely with a few nurses who I trust and work with.

When will I not be sad or feel anxious anymore?”
The goal of therapy is not to rid you of uncomfortable feelings. One of the goals of therapy is to help you use your feelings to inform you rather than ignoring them and then being surprised and overwhelmed by them when you do feel them. As you make sense of your emotional experiences you will feel more empowered and less reactive. Because of this, you will inevitably feel less confused, anxious, and embarrassed.

“How long will therapy take?”
Some people who come to see me just need a little clarity or feedback on a life decision. I often find that many people who are overcoming a lifetime of engrained emotional responses, harmful behaviors, and strongly held beliefs need more time to sort through all that is happening or has happened. So, therapy can last from a few months to years depending on what your needs are.

“Is it okay to see you for individual therapy and couple therapy?”
At times I ask to see couples individually to work through things that might be slowing down the couple therapy process. However, it is best that you see me for individual therapy when you begin therapy as a couple. This helps to protect you and me from any conflicts that might be created by feelings of bias toward one person.

“Do you see friends or family of your clients?”
Clients often refer friends and family members to me. I feel honored to be entrusted as a professional therapist to help people you love. We will discuss this and any potential complication that may arise if this should happen.

“How many years have you been counseling?”
Before attaining my Masters Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy; I spent a decade working closely with families doing elder and Hospice care. I also led several growth groups and worked with the Pregnancy Resource Center counseling women on pregnancy issues. My first year of counseling was spent working with individuals, couples and families dealing with the painful affects of trauma and addiction. This combined with 7 years of private practice work brings me close to 17 years of experience working with families under stress and dealing with loss.

“Are payments due at the time of the session?”
Yes, please make your check out before the start of each session and give it to me at the beginning of the session. You may also use cash if you prefer. There is a $5.00 charge for payments not made on time.

“Do you do weekend appointments?”
I generally do not do weekend appointments. I have at times made exceptions when clients have no other options. In these cases, I only do morning appointments on Saturdays.

“Do you take credit cards?”
You have the option of paying with a debit card or credit card through the Square service provided at the time of your session. you should know that there is a fee associated with payment by debit or credit card. To avoid this fee you will want to pay by cash or check.

“Do you take insurance?”
If you have a PPO or the ability to choose to work with someone out of network; I will be covered by your insurance. I generally find that most coverage is about 60%. Otherwise, I try to make my fees affordable by offering a sliding scale for those who cannot afford my full fee. This is offered on a limited basis based upon how many people are already benefiting from the reduced fee plan.

Author:
• Friday, May 20th, 2011

Therapy can be a radically life changing experience. As a part of entering the therapy relationship, it is helpful for you to understand a bit about the process you are considering entering into. Therapy typically follows these phases:

Earning your Trust
A safe emotional environment is essential for understanding and growth. In this phase I am getting to know your history as well as understand what has brought you to seek my help. I will help you define goals that feel important to you.

Delving Deeper
As you open up and explain to me your life experiences and struggles; I help you recognize things that are outside of your awareness and that are keeping you from living a more meaningful and connected life. This can be a difficult process as you begin to see things about yourself and your life that you did not recognize before. You may find yourself resisting the process and having anxiety before sessions. As a part of therapy I invite you to share these feelings with me.

Feeling Lost
As you go through this psychological transition you begin to see yourself and your life differently, you may even think therapy is making you worse. As you feel more sad, scared, or anxious than you did before you came to therapy. It is important to know that things often get worse before they get better. I remain with you as you let go of thoughts, habits, perceptions, people, or whatever is keeping you stuck.

Redefining Yourself
As you recognize what doesn’t work for you and allow yourself to grieve these ways of coping with life, your perceptions change and you can better understand yourself and your life in a new way. This frees you to see what is available to you and learn how to draw on resources within you and around you that help you move through difficult experiences with greater meaning and intention.

Keeping it up!
Having taken healthy risks inside and outside of therapy to build better support for yourself helps you cope with life in healthier ways leaving less need for the old hurtful ways of coping with life stressors. To maintain your health, you will continue to seek self-understanding by turning inward and by recruiting the help of your mate, friends, or family. At this point we begin the goodbye process. The longer you are in therapy the longer it will take to say goodbye to me. This may be the first time you will have the opportunity to experience transition in a positive supportive way. I generally leave the door open for any future support you may need from me. I look forward to you reaching this point and celebrating your growth with you!

*If during any part of this process you feel like I am not understanding you or you feel uncomfortable with my feedback, I invite you to discuss this with me so I may best help you. I will occasionally check in with you along the way about how the process is going and if you are feeling directed toward your goals.

Author:
• Wednesday, May 20th, 2009

“Crystal Mattox is an exceptionally caring person and therapist.  She helped my wife and I take a completely broken marriage relationship through the difficult process of insight and discovery.  Her kind spirit and perceptive encouragement created for us a safe place where we could ponder our decisions and perceptions.  Her insight into deeply rooted emotional issues gave us the means to begin creating a new healthy relationship. We literally went from being divorced to remarrying.”
~D. P.

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• Wednesday, May 20th, 2009

Growing up in a chaotic home with a violent alcoholic father, Tammy had a difficult time making sense of life around her. She strove to not feel overwhelmed and confused on a continual basis. As a girl she felt very sad and alone, with no one to turn to. At the age of 10 Tammy began to write in a journal. Her journal provided a home for all the sadness and anxiety she held inside. Within her journal she found a place to give voice to what seemed like no one around her could hear.

Like Tammy, you too have a voice and you too have a story to tell. Decisions you make every day are influenced by the story you tell yourself about who you are and your life experiences. Most people are fairly unaware of the meaning they make of their own lives and how this causes them to react to what they experience. The less you know about who you are and what you believe, the less control you have over your life. Part of what I help people in therapy do is find their voice so they may make more deliberate decisions that reflect who they truly are and desire to be.

Journaling is a powerful and effective way to explore your deeper self. There are a number of benefits to journaling:

~Journaling can help you develop a more intimate relationship with yourself.

~Journaling  can help you understand your emotions and gives your feelings context & meaning.

~Journaling can help clarify the reality of your circumstances & events actually feel more real to you.

~Journaling  can help you identify what matters most to you.

~Journaling is a free alternative to other forms of self-care.

Below is a list journaling options you may use in your personal time:

~Letter Writing– You write to a person, place, or thing to which you have a
relationship. (This may include: yourself, a substance, an object, an emotion, a behavior, or whatever seems important to you).

~Memory Writing-this may include specialized time lines or narratives that help
you investigate & remember important life events.

~Transition Writing– While transitioning or suffering from a loss you can write
about the experience as you are feeling the effects of the loss as they are happening.

~Free Writing– Write whatever comes to your mind without judging yourself or
being concern about others judging you.

~Lists– Lists allow you to quickly identify and address important information that might otherwise be difficult to identify.

Making sense and meaning of your life is vital for living with intention. Whether or not you take the time to listen, your life experiences will guide you. When you actually take the time to tune in to a deeper understanding of yourself, you open the door to hear what your life is telling you, only then can you decide what you want your life to say. As you think about your life story now, what would you like it to say?