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As a therapist I consider your growth my highest priority. My passion for helping others is birthed from my own personal transformation and healing. I have made a commitment to actively engage in my own growth so I may continue to thrive as a healthy person building a healthy practice. I am fortunate to have people entrust me with the most vulnerable details of their lives and help them heal and create the relationships they desire to have with themselves and others.
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  • Gain the ability to create and maintain longstanding loving relationships
  • Stop self destructive patterns of behavior
  • Get relief from painful emotional experiences
  • Feel deeply understood
  • Identify and access your talents and strengths
  • Develop intimacy and trust in your relationship
  • Improve your communications skills
  • Learn how to be a better parent
  • Become more productive at work
  • Get more satisfaction from life
  • Understand your feelings and behaviors that don’t make sense
  • Prevent the past from interfering with the present
  • Talk things over in a confidential setting

Articles by Crystal

Tag-Archive for ◊ healing ◊

• Friday, May 20th, 2011

Therapy can be a radically life changing experience. As a part of entering the therapy relationship, it is helpful for you to understand a bit about the process you are considering entering into. Therapy typically follows these phases:

Earning your Trust
A safe emotional environment is essential for understanding and growth. In this phase I am getting to know your history as well as understand what has brought you to seek my help. I will help you define goals that feel important to you.

Delving Deeper
As you open up and explain to me your life experiences and struggles; I help you recognize things that are outside of your awareness and that are keeping you from living a more meaningful and connected life. This can be a difficult process as you begin to see things about yourself and your life that you did not recognize before. You may find yourself resisting the process and having anxiety before sessions. As a part of therapy I invite you to share these feelings with me.

Feeling Lost
As you go through this psychological transition you begin to see yourself and your life differently, you may even think therapy is making you worse. As you feel more sad, scared, or anxious than you did before you came to therapy. It is important to know that things often get worse before they get better. I remain with you as you let go of thoughts, habits, perceptions, people, or whatever is keeping you stuck.

Redefining Yourself
As you recognize what doesn’t work for you and allow yourself to grieve these ways of coping with life, your perceptions change and you can better understand yourself and your life in a new way. This frees you to see what is available to you and learn how to draw on resources within you and around you that help you move through difficult experiences with greater meaning and intention.

Keeping it up!
Having taken healthy risks inside and outside of therapy to build better support for yourself helps you cope with life in healthier ways leaving less need for the old hurtful ways of coping with life stressors. To maintain your health, you will continue to seek self-understanding by turning inward and by recruiting the help of your mate, friends, or family. At this point we begin the goodbye process. The longer you are in therapy the longer it will take to say goodbye to me. This may be the first time you will have the opportunity to experience transition in a positive supportive way. I generally leave the door open for any future support you may need from me. I look forward to you reaching this point and celebrating your growth with you!

*If during any part of this process you feel like I am not understanding you or you feel uncomfortable with my feedback, I invite you to discuss this with me so I may best help you. I will occasionally check in with you along the way about how the process is going and if you are feeling directed toward your goals.

• Wednesday, May 20th, 2009

Growing up in a chaotic home with a violent alcoholic father, Tammy had a difficult time making sense of life around her. She strove to not feel overwhelmed and confused on a continual basis. As a girl she felt very sad and alone, with no one to turn to. At the age of 10 Tammy began to write in a journal. Her journal provided a home for all the sadness and anxiety she held inside. Within her journal she found a place to give voice to what seemed like no one around her could hear.

Like Tammy, you too have a voice and you too have a story to tell. Decisions you make every day are influenced by the story you tell yourself about who you are and your life experiences. Most people are fairly unaware of the meaning they make of their own lives and how this causes them to react to what they experience. The less you know about who you are and what you believe, the less control you have over your life. Part of what I help people in therapy do is find their voice so they may make more deliberate decisions that reflect who they truly are and desire to be.

Journaling is a powerful and effective way to explore your deeper self. There are a number of benefits to journaling:

~Journaling can help you develop a more intimate relationship with yourself.

~Journaling  can help you understand your emotions and gives your feelings context & meaning.

~Journaling can help clarify the reality of your circumstances & events actually feel more real to you.

~Journaling  can help you identify what matters most to you.

~Journaling is a free alternative to other forms of self-care.

Below is a list journaling options you may use in your personal time:

~Letter Writing– You write to a person, place, or thing to which you have a
relationship. (This may include: yourself, a substance, an object, an emotion, a behavior, or whatever seems important to you).

~Memory Writing-this may include specialized time lines or narratives that help
you investigate & remember important life events.

~Transition Writing– While transitioning or suffering from a loss you can write
about the experience as you are feeling the effects of the loss as they are happening.

~Free Writing– Write whatever comes to your mind without judging yourself or
being concern about others judging you.

~Lists– Lists allow you to quickly identify and address important information that might otherwise be difficult to identify.

Making sense and meaning of your life is vital for living with intention. Whether or not you take the time to listen, your life experiences will guide you. When you actually take the time to tune in to a deeper understanding of yourself, you open the door to hear what your life is telling you, only then can you decide what you want your life to say. As you think about your life story now, what would you like it to say?