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About me

As a therapist I consider your growth my highest priority. My passion for helping others is birthed from my own personal transformation and healing. I have made a commitment to actively engage in my own growth so I may continue to thrive as a healthy person building a healthy practice. I am fortunate to have people entrust me with the most vulnerable details of their lives and help them heal and create the relationships they desire to have with themselves and others.
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Struggling in your relationships?

I can help you…

  • Gain the ability to create and maintain longstanding loving relationships
  • Stop self destructive patterns of behavior
  • Get relief from painful emotional experiences
  • Feel deeply understood
  • Identify and access your talents and strengths
  • Develop intimacy and trust in your relationship
  • Improve your communications skills
  • Learn how to be a better parent
  • Become more productive at work
  • Get more satisfaction from life
  • Understand your feelings and behaviors that don’t make sense
  • Prevent the past from interfering with the present
  • Talk things over in a confidential setting

Articles by Crystal

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• Wednesday, May 20th, 2009

“My skepticism about counseling vanished as I found even on my first visit that Crystal was a personable and knowledgeable counselor who really did understand what I was dealing with.  She quickly helped me identify many of the deeper related reasons for my behavior and attitudes and gave me tools to make my life manageable.  Now, only a few months later, I’m experiencing more freedom than ever before.  Pornography has lost its grip on me, much of my anger has been defused, my wife and I are communicating better than ever before and my life feels meaningful again. Seeing Crystal was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.”
– K. D.

Author:
• Wednesday, May 20th, 2009

“I was skeptical about therapy. I felt trapped and out of control—anger & pornography were threatening my career and marriage of 20 years.  I had used all the other tools I knew and while they provided a certain measure of relief, nothing was truly working.  When I shared my crisis with a few trusted friends, they recommended that I see a professional counselor, and a pastor friend in particular quickly recommended Crystal to me as one who had been instrumental in bringing about a dramatic change for a man in his congregation with similar problems.” -M. K.

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• Wednesday, May 20th, 2009

“After 35 years of drug abuse, I have been sober for 2 years! I consider Crystal an important part of my healing.  Her unique style helped me get to deep issues by providing a safe atmosphere filled with encouragement and acceptance. Unlike other therapists I’ve seen in the past. Crystal digs much deeper so I can really understand myself. She is definitely a gifted therapist.”
–D. R.

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• Wednesday, May 20th, 2009

“When we came to Crystal our relationship seemed beyond repair. Crystal was able to uncover deep levels of emotional pain that we were unaware of. She guided us in shedding our past and helped us rebuild our marriage using love, trust, and sincere communication.  Crystal and her gifts will always be a part of who we are now.”
–R.B. & T.B.

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• Monday, March 16th, 2009

The best moments in life are those most difficult to describe in words. They are the moments you feel deeply heard and understood by another. I can recall a recent moment between good friends. Hanna & Colleen were part of a foursome in college who became a closely knit family. For ten years they cared for each other in ways that their own families had failed them. Hanna recently became engaged and realized that she could not be as close to these friends as she once had. After a trip they had taken together, Hanna described to Colleen that she was feeling a bit left out and that she felt pulled between wanting to be close to her fiancé and wanting to remain as close to their friends as she had always been.

Hanna spoke with caution, unsure of how Colleen would respond to her feelings. I noticed how her words trembled a bit and she would say things like, “I am not mentioning this to hurt you, I just want you to know how I am feeling.” Colleen, with a tender, unbroken gaze, listened patiently not interrupting nor defending herself. As Hanna continued to explain her experience she fumbled over her words struggling to get her message out. When she finally finished she took a deep breath. With one simple and gentle sentence Colleen said, “Don’t worry Hanna; you are not going to lose us.” Hanna’s eyes immediately filled with tears. She realized what she had been trying to say was, “I’m scared to lose you.” Colleen not only heard the words that Hanna spoke; she heard what Hanna was unable to express in words, she heard the deep longings of Hanna’s heart.

What is it about people like Colleen who add such healing qualities to their relationships? As I reflect on that conversation, I realize that Colleen could be with Hanna in her pain, because she recognized that same pain in herself and had tended to it.

The following 6 qualities will help you too, listen with an open heart:

  • Don’t run from your pain – Embrace your pain, allow it to teach you
  • Remain open and nonjudgmental – Remember that we all have different understandings of our experiences
  • Be with the person, don’t fix them – Allow the person to experience and express difficult emotions
  • Affirm how the other person feels – Notice the person’s emotions, express what you notice
  • Stay Connected not reactive – Ask yourself, “What does this person really need from me right now?”
  • Ask open-ended questions -Open ended questions help you know the person’s intentions and gain details.

When we genuinely listen to others, they experience our care as enlivening and empowering them.  Growth comes from having someone hear the most vital parts of you are. This allows you to gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your relationships. Just as Hanna discovered her deeper longings and felt more connected to Colleen, you also can live with greater awareness deepening your relationships. Consider someone in your life who you’d like to hear more fully.